Monday, February 23, 2009

Judge Not

This journey with my spirited baby has made me a lot less judgmental and a whole lot more determined to encourage other mothers. Motherhood is hard enough as it is. Add a spirited baby to the mix and it can be overwhelming. Benjamin does just not give up. I remember in the early days of trying to get him to go to sleep by himself, he could cry for an hour....and then I’d be the one to give in. He was unrelenting, and often he wore me down. Once again, I am thankful for my amazing husband. Without him, I would have given up many times.

I am in admiration of single mothers. How they do it by themselves if beyond me. I guess you do what you have to do. When Benjamin was a few months old, I was all for routine. A single mother I knew was bringing her baby up another way. I remember trying to offer her advice and thinking things would be better for her if she did it my way. How I wish I had kept my mouth shut and rather told her she was doing an amazing job. Thank goodness she is still in my life. And I’m able to tell her now. Her son is gorgeous and happy and she has done it all by herself!

My goal is to be quick to encourage at all times...even when you think things would be easier for them if they were to do things another way. I don’t think it is my place to offer advice when it is not asked for. In the long run, methods are unimportant. That the child is loved and cared for is what IS important. I encourage you to be an encourager. You might just give someone the courage they need for the day.
Check out my Hall of Amazing Mothers (the photos below in case you were wondering!)

More photos to come...

1 comment:

Sammy said...

You do such an amazing job with Ben! That look in his eye even when deciding whether to eat what you are offering or not, would make me give in! You have to be so strong but you have never broken Ben's spirit. He is able to be himself within some loving boundaries xxx

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